Don’t drop the jelly

While heading to the school to pick up the kids I decided I would take them out to a quiet park so they could enjoy the beautiful day instead of going straight home. Although it was pretty hot out I knew they would have a great time and use up a lot of energy just in time for naps. Feeling the sun on my face I decide to take a short cut and climb the steps to the overpass and head down the other end without walking around the extra blocks to make my way to the park.

Boy, was that a mistake. Let me draw a little picture for you. Both kids in the double stroller because they were too hot to walk and climb any steps. Me in a long, almost dragging to the ground summer dress and flip flops trying to push two almost 3 ½ toddlers up each step while traffic below us is honking and making all sorts of awful noises with the sun beaming down on us, kids giggling thinking the banging of each step is hysterical. I’m leaning forward on the stroller bar, feet dangling to get it to lift because I have no more strength or energy (did I mention I’m not good in heat) I finally get to the top of the hill to realize there are stairs going down instead of a ramp. Seeing this the kids are thrilled and yell faster mommy, faster. I tried to keep my cool and talk them out of the faster request as we make our way slowly down the steps. We reach the bottom and I’m about to lift my arms, like Rocky did after he climbed the steps in triumph, when a man walks by and proudly says, I watched you coming up and thought you had it under control. My arms, in the half up position (robbed of my full arm lift chant) slowly releases . At that moment I was about to slap him for saying what he did because that meant he just watched instead of helped. I swallowed and smiled and then walked away. Gio and Isa were giggling to each other talking about the ride they just experienced and how they wanted to do it again after we left the park. NOT!

After the park enjoyment and the water fun we made our way home. The long way with no short cuts, thank you very much!

Along the way home Giovanni asks if he can have a pb&j sandwich once we get home but I remembered we are out of jelly. I tell him we are heading to the store to buy the jelly and once we get home I will make their sandwiches. He is thrilled. This kid is beaming from ear to ear and gets Isannah in the happy sandwich mood. We get the jelly and are making our way home. Songs are being created about the peanut butter and jelly sandwiches they are going to have. All very creative and cute so I let the giggles and songs keep my mind off of the heat and soreness in my arms from my earlier experience. We are finally in front of our house. The kids get out of the stroller and make their way up the stoop. I pull out lunch boxes, waters and art projects from school pick up, my bag along with the glass jar of jelly. As I make my way out of the front yard the gate somehow slammed me in the back causing the glass jar of jelly to escape my hand and land on the concrete ground. The kids immediately looked in horror. I picked up the jar and see that it is cracked and not only is their broken glass in the jar but now tiny pieces are in my finger. I immediately toss the jar in the garbage and pull the gate closed. In doing so a piece of the rusted gate got stuck and splintered in my other finger. I’m in pain and trying not to push the pieces further in my fingers while all of the sudden Giovanni begins to scream bloody murder on the stoop because he won’t have any jelly for his sandwich. I’m about to break down in tears myself for the pain in my fingers and for the tears of true sadness in Giovanni’s eyes and voice because I let the jelly drop. Let’s just say trying to get him in the house without the jar in my hand was a long sad struggle. It’s been a fun day so far.

Thought I could bring some laughter to someone else who isn’t having such a fun day. Hoping this puts a smile on your face.

A touch

We were in a cab on our way to the city. Windows rolled down just enough to feel the gentle breeze swirl inside the car. I was looking out the window to avoid getting car sick. Thoughts of the evening played in my head and not knowing it but my body was a bit tense. Out of nowhere I felt a calming touch on my leg. My husband placed his hand on my leg ever so gently at just the right time, all of the sudden I felt my entire body relax. I took a deep breath and felt so relieved and reassured.

How can a touch be so powerful? How can a touch lift all the burdens of the day? How can a touch remind you that you are loved unconditionally and admired? All I know is that “touch” is all this heart needs and because of it I was able to relax and enjoy all the evening adventures.

That moment when all you need is that touch.

Believe in you

Life is a beautiful gift we are given to live the best way we can with gratitude, love, care, kindness, appreciation in your heart and mind. This gift although fragile is strong in many ways. Please do not dwell on what could have been or fear what will be. Don’t fill your heart with hate and jealousy but with love and kindness. So many people want to hurt you because they are hurting. Understand that and move forward. Don’t let them bring your loving heart down to their pain. You can help them through it. Lift them up even though they are trying to bring you down, and if it doesn’t work carry yourself with the love and respect that God gives all of us. It’s how YOU handle what is given to you rather than what someone else says to be true. Believe in you. 

 

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Rallying for Bishop Ford and Mom

Walking arm and arm with my mom today was the most emotionally beautiful feeling. She stood strong and tried to keep that welcoming smile on her face even though I knew her thoughts were heavy. We were surrounded by students, faculty, parents and friends fighting to keep Bishop Ford open. Fighting for a common goal to keep a home to many open. My mom worked there for over ten years. When asked she took overtime. When ordered she smiled and did what was told of her. She never complained only helped in any way she could and now they are closing without warning, explanation and heart. Today was just another reason why hope and faith gets harder but no matter how far we are pushed we need to hold on to any belief we have that things get better.
As we took our final walk around the school, our arms locking even tighter. We just stood looked at each other and then heard the sweet voice of the schools choir. Everything seems so real and I hid my tears so mom wouldn’t see. I am so proud of my mom for all she is and all she does. From the light that shines within her and spread within me.
I hope she knows I will always stand right by her side as she’s always stood by mine.

 

Just a bunch of rambling

When you have kids they say you make new friends. You bring your kids to different activities, classes, events and school so you begin to see the same faces. Parents dropping off their kids or enjoying a class together. You exchange smiles and pleasantries but then a lot of the time it stops there. It takes a lot for me to open myself up and let anyone in but you try to do just that. Sometimes it works and sometimes it makes you shrivel up and close the door even tighter.

Moving is hard no matter where you started or where you came from. My home to me will always be Brooklyn. That is where I was born and celebrated my younger years. I also made some of my closest friends during that time. Although we moved away early on my heart has always been here. Now that doesn’t mean that during my travels I haven’t met amazing friends, I surely have. It just means my feet always want to land here. A move is hard especially for a person that is shy and doesn’t put themselves out there. I always thought, Why should I? When you are hurt a number of times your door closes tighter and your confidence all but diminishes. It takes a lot to undo what was done.

This morning as I was taking my kids to school I saw familiar faces so I smiled at each face. It was hard for me because my mind was feeling a little heavy this morning but that didn’t stop me from trying. I found that not everyone wants a smile in the morning. It almost felt as though I was bothering some and that made it harder for me to keep my smile. Once I dropped off the kids my mind drifted to my time in Texas. I realized that as much as I wanted to leave there I miss it. Well, let me rephrase that. I miss the friends I made there. I wish there was a way you could gather them all up and take them wherever you go. I mean, I know I do just that in memories and in my heart but I miss the physical being. That being said, I tried to open up myself again to people around me. I convinced myself that not everyone is out to hurt you or to hurt people. You need to open yourself up to the world so that you can receive amazing gifts.

I met a couple of new parents within the past few days that are truly kind. I’m happy I didn’t allow myself to be discouraged once again by the negative. Even though this will be a slow process it’s a stage in your life like everything else. It’s how we allow ourselves to experience it and move forward. Hoping to do that with kind people that will help me grow as well as allow me to help them. It’s great when you share a common goal and for me that is to love unconditionally. Help my children grow up to be the best people they can be. Along with teaching them not to give up, be strong and ALWAYS believe in yourself even when you feel like you lost your way. Surround yourself with people that lift you up and allow you to shine. That love your smile so that no matter how you feel that smile brightens up the day. 

Giraffes Can’t Dance

What an exciting morning. The kids were all smiles knowing that today was the day that their daddy would come to school and read a book. It was parent volunteer book reading month and when the kids learned that their daddy was on the calendar they just beamed. The book was selected the night before so all things were falling into place. I got the kids up, fed and dressed them for school. In the car ride the giggles began as well as the questions. Is daddy coming now? When is daddy coming? Where is daddy? Boy, they were endless but I couldn’t help but smile. I explained to them that daddy is scheduled for 10:00 am so that meant after the morning circle and morning snacks. They stayed quiet for just a moment and then the same questions came up. They were just too excited and wanted reassurance that he was definitely going to be apart of their morning at school. I was giggling too. I knew the kids would be attached to Asher from the moment he walked into the school.

It was almost time to head to school with Asher. I had butterflies in my belly just for knowing how the kids would react. Sadly, I wasn’t able to see it but from the moment he walked into the school to the moment he walked out, I could just picture the expressions and how it all went. My husband had a sweet smile on his face while walking in my direction. Book in hand and a smile on his face. Boy, did I love seeing this. I’m not sure I could describe the feeling I felt inside but let’s just say it was like waiting to hear the ice-cream truck bell on a hot summer day. Right at that moment when you were wiggling about on the tips of your toes because you couldn’t take it anymore you heard that sweet sound. Awe, your body relaxes and you run in the direction of the truck. That’s how I felt when I saw my sweet husband walk towards me with that smile. I knew it was the best reading ever.

I can’t wait to pick the kids up today so I can hear their version of how it all went. This is definitely something to look forward to. 

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Superheroes

Today is bittersweet. The excitement started yesterday knowing that the kids would enjoy superhero day at school today. Then Isannah’s on and off again cough started to sound different and she was a little off when night time came. She didn’t have a good night so a doctor’s visit was in order. As I dressed Gio in his Spiderman costume this morning he was sad that Isannah wasn’t going to school with him and so was she. Once Gio and I got to school he noticed all the other costumes and turned to me and said Isannah is the real superwoman. He hugged me and said he would wait for Isannah. When I told him again she wouldn’t come he made a sad face but couldn’t control the happiness he felt for being in his super cool costume. Back at the house I have Isannah enjoying her superwoman powers as we wait to see the doctor. Fun will be had by all. I will make sure of it.

After superwoman(because she is not supergirl as she stated early on so there was no confusion) flew around the house for the 12th time, meaning over my arms as I helped her fly, my arms were about to fall off no matter how many times she said, “higher mommy higher” I couldn’t lift her any longer. As I was explaining that even superheroes needed a break the doctor called. The sound of the ring was truly music to my ears. The doctor was ready for us so we made our way partially flying to his office. After superwoman followed all of doctors instructions she was cleared for take off. It was nothing more than a stubborn cold that was causing a post nasal drip which made my sweet baby girls cough sound worse than it was. After Isannah showed the doctor her superwoman powers he gave her the clearance to go to school today. I made absolutely sure the doctor and the teacher were fine with the decision.

Isannah was beaming when we got to her school and I knew that Giovanni would be all smiles to see her. She was just in time for the superhero dance and outdoor play. Fun was definitely had by all. Way to go, superheroes!!  

 

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Moments

Everyone is going through something whether good or bad something is always happening. Sometimes I’m so caught up in a moment that I immediately want to share it with all of you. My moments change frequently but when I catch an uplifting one I feel like sharing it in the hopes it will lift up someone who may need it at their moment. This doesn’t mean that all my moments or stories are happy and perfect. Lord knows I am far from that but it means that at that moment I was able to smile and share my smile with you. Smiles become frowns within seconds and that’s ok. It’s how we let it affect us that will make all the difference. Just because one moment I was admiring something my kids did or slow dancing with my husband feeling the love around us so deeply doesn’t mean the very next moment Gio and Isa aren’t screaming and fighting over a toy they each want causing any peace to slip away. Or that I have a leak, now a hole in my ceiling. The list goes on as I’m sure it does for many of you. We need to do our best to remember that moment that caught your smile. The moment that surrounded you with love and let those carry you through the not so good times. Life is not perfect but neither are we so we should never expect the perfect. Surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally. Lift you up when you feel like you are scraping the floor because you are so low. Everyone of us needs reminders sometimes and that’s what I hope my stories are to you. Please share your uplifting stories. A moment that left you smiling or a moment that brought overwhelming fear and frustration. I love hearing them all and hope that we can each make the other smile and not feel so alone.

Dance, mommy!

The blinds are wide open, the windows slightly cracked and Italian megamix filling the speakers in our home when Isannah says, “mommy dance with me on this rug”. When your little girl asks you to bust a move, you do it no matter whose watching.

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